Lobola is a fraudulent concept and nobody has a logical explanation why people in India and Africa continue to do it. It’s greed that’s what it is. It was greed when African men centuries ago with multiple wives calculated their wealth by considering the number of wives(field workers), livestock, farms and daughters( tob be auctioned at some stage) and it is greed now. Don’t get me wrong if and when I decide to marry I will pay. I just think that it’s nonsensical.
People say it’s Tradition, but that just doesn’t cut it for me. Why should anyone pay for anyone? use as many ‘nice’ terms as you wish, but it is in effect selling someone, a business transaction in every sense of the word… You actually negotiate the same way you negotiate when buying a second hand spare part ku Panganani. In India women from poor families cannot get married because of this ‘tradition’. In Africa uncles have made careers out of bride price negotiation. We can’t defend a concept built on greed and elitism with such things as tradition.
Others say it’s a way of appreciation. Now appreciating what exactly? Who should be appreciated? Aren’t both families worthy of praise and appreciation? Why should it just be one family to be thanked when two families have natured and educated two people. What metric are you using to determine which one should pay and why?
In Zambia mostly the guy pays for everything. Then the womans family organizes a cheap ceremony featuring herbs and roots to thank the man’s family. In India prices a high and the poor are priced out. Where else in African history do you see people paying for others depending on age, literacy etc? 😂😂
What is the true purpose of these transactions will the marriage be any less happy if neither the man nor the woman paid for the other to join them in holy matrimony?
By Milton Mwansa