Dear Mirriam Mukape aka Mampi
I enjoyed reading your Facebook post on why you are single and your thoughts on the subject. I enjoy your shows and your great musical talent. Your thoughts certainly had lots of wisdom in them. However, you missed the big elephant in the middle of the room. The reason you are still single has nothing to do with you waiting for the right man.
You are still single because no proper decent man wants to marry you. No decent man will marry you because you go all over the place exposing half your breasts with tattoos on them. Which decent man from a decent family will ever take you to meet his parents for marriage? Before you have even arrived, someone has already sent them on WhatsApp photos showing your tattooed breasts or bare thighs.
No matter how nice and charming you try to be, that picture will remain in their minds forever and it was you who created it in your quest to gain attention and fame. Even your potential mother in law will be very uncomfortable knowing that her husband already has that picture of your tattooed breasts in his mind even as you show up smiling with her son.
You should realise that there are consequences for all your actions in life. You may get the extra attention and fame exposing your bare skin to the Zambian public but you have lost the opportunity to get a really decent man. As the Bible says, you reap what you sow.
It doesn’t matter what you say or try to do. It doesn’t even matter that you are probably a decent girl with a good heart. Zambian society is very conservative and they have judged you already. All the men coming after you are obviously only interested in you know what, but it was you who attracted them by your own choices. You should have known better. In saying this, I am not passing judgment on you but just showing you the consequences of your choices.
Your fellow talented female musicians Angela Nyirenda, Maureen Lilanda or Marsha Moyo never went around exposing their bodies the way you do yet they produce hit songs that we still enjoy up to today. Moyo won award after award, performed at the only seven star hotel in the world, was appointed by the UN to push for the Millennium Development Goals and even featured on MTV. She achieved what you will never achieve and did it all without once exposing her breasts or thighs.
Anyway, I wish you well and good luck in your search for the perfect husband. You will need it.