Until you have spent a minute inside a woman’s heart, you will never comprehend what makes her tick, keeps her motivated, disappoint her – let alone jump over marital fences and cheat on her husband.
Chances are, you never will, as nobody was ever even a second inside the heart of a woman. Only a woman would know, comprehend, sympathise with and condone a woman’s cheating in marriage.
Men never will, not because they are not females but mostly because they were never meant to understand what sort of creatures these pretty animals are. Today’s world is infested with as much women as men cheating in marriage. The imbalance here is that society never ponders why a woman would cheat in marriage save for blaming them and calling them all sorts of dirty names and meting cruel punishments unto their deeds. This is despite the fact that men are their partners in crime.
The crux of the matter is that these creatures designed so magnificently after their sister Eve can indulge in cheating their partners due to societal reasons and imbalances.
One of the principal reasons why they would do that is anger and bitterness in their heart. Now, all women at a point or every time of their married life are bitter and angry mostly with and towards the men they vowed they would please till death does them asunder.
She may be angry that her husband has cheated on her. It doesn’t matter how many times it may have been; just one time is as bad as many. Through the journey of her pain she may want to answer fire with fire and revenge. She would cheat. Not that she would intend that the hubby finds. Somehow she feels she will be better that she is bonking it like a rabbit with somebody else.
Still she will be bitter with her husband. Not only will a woman cheat when she has been cheated but also when she is disappointed.
Here is a man who made her leave everything else and even sacrificed her career. He promised her all the good things in life and now five years down the line nothing good has been forthcoming. It has been struggling financially, many brats and no future security.
You know these chaps who brag about what they have never been and never had just to lure a woman. He presents himself. A manager, a businessman or academician. When reality erupts the woman is disappointed because she cannot regain her youthfulness and her wasted opportunities. She is going to find a man who will match her desire for the comfort of her dented ego and life.
Scales would say, it is alright to lie to a woman so long as you would do it properly. However, a woman who discovers she has been lied to will hate you for the rest of her life and most probably cheat on you to soothe her heart. She believes, with all your lies, empty promises and blatant failures, you don’t deserve her.
Scales has said it prior that men tend to love women for no reason apart from the fact that they are females. Beyond her feminity, embedded in it, a Packet of Sugar, Gentleman Jimmy would not specify why he loves Janet. One would bet that is true and unconditional love.
In this nature of love, men have committed themselves to women with weak morals. Strong as he may be, like the muscular and fearsome Samson in the Bible, he may be in love with a Delilah who has never been anybody’s material for a wife.
True, not all women of loose morals are in brothels or along the streets selling their flesh wares. Many are also enclosed in marital domains and they jump over the fences because they are just loose through married.
Whatever punishment meted on her, she would still be loose, naturally so. Some men have women like that and they know hence they are forever on their heels lest she jumps out of bed for the garden boy.
Some women are not so morally decayed that they cheat but are just weak of character. She may be easily influenced by friends who are in the habit of cheating on their husbands. They may be colleagues at work, members of some women movement or whatever grouping.
Whilst she doesn’t cheat, she would be dangerous to the others because she may report on their shady amorous deeds. They would get her Sweet Bananas as well. They would go as far as organising the man for her, time, place for bedroom sports and cover her tracks. First they would visit her home; befriend her hubby so that they would call him some day.
Given her own conscience and decision, Thandiwe would never have cheated on her husband. She is just under a spell and the influence of evil friends. Left on her own, she is a lost soul who is wandering between her husband and the “secret service soldier” recruited for her by Joyce.
Desperate women have been, often times than not caught in the web of cheating in marriage. She may be desperate for a job and the man who has the hiring authority conducts interviews better on the office carpet or a motel bed. She has, for many years, escaped that route but now her economic situation is worse with an unemployed husband she has to give in finally.
Sadly enough, the lady may be desperate for the Third Leg itself. tThe shaft has long gone to “Half-Past-Six”. Whilst she still cherishes the vows of the Holy Matrimony, she is in dire need for anything to quench the fires burning inside. Fires and ambers that are blazing beyond her sympathy for, comprehension and compassion for the man she is married to. She would go and recruit a secret agent. Whilst her spirit would fight her conscience, her flesh would demand her will gives in to adultery.
Scales would almost swear men would not understand let alone accept this reason.
At times a woman would cheat because she lacks a sense of belonging. Here is a husband who has provided all; money, property and comfort but still the woman is unhappy.
She feels is like the property and treated the same way. She is never asked how she feels but used anyhow. Here is a man rich who is very strong in bed. Provides everything and is good to children and family. In bed he is an animal. He wouldn’t even listen whether the woman was crying out of pain or joy.
Someday she was caught cheating and the man couldn’t understand why after so much drilling in the bedroom. She said she wanted to feel wanted, respected, considered and loved in lovemaking.
Scales would say and the Holy book would testify, there would never be any justification for cheating in marriage no matter how long, genuine, painful the reason given.
Be that as it may, until you have been a minute in a woman’s heart, you wouldn’t know how, when, where and why she cheated!